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When you re not attracted your partner

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When you re not attracted your partner Are you tired of the boring dinner-and-movie-date that feels more like a job interview with a film at the end, than a romantic meeting? I get it -- it's a very arranged setup. Let me ask you this: In every other part of our lives we meet new people through a common interest or activity. Maybe you work or study together, share a hobby, meet at a festival or in yoga class. You have something in common, and get to know each other through that.

Well, let me share a little secret When you re not attracted your partner you: Getting to know the person you're dating should never be the main activity, but a result of the main activity! That's why you need start doing more fun stuff on your dates! It doesn't have to be expensive, crazy or complicated -- taking a walk in the park, baking cup cakes or playing a game of darts in the local pub works great.

It's easier to suggest You don't have to do the whole formal "would you like to go on a date with me? It makes you more attractive By suggesting something a little different you show the other person that you're more creative, life loving and interesting than most people. Even the best of dinner dates can be a little bit stiff sometimes. If you don't hit it off it can even be kind of awful -- and such a waste of time since there is no place to go and nothing to do but to sit there until the end of the meal.

But if you go on an activity date, even if the person you're dating turns out to be a bore, at least you get to do something fun and you didn't waste your time. You get to know each other better The dinner-and-movie-date may be classic, but it's not the best way to get to know someone.

Activity dating lets you see the other person in a more "natural environment," which tells you a lot more about them than they could ever tell you about themselves.

You can come closer The one thing that differentiates a dating relationship from most other kinds of relationships is the potential for physical intimacy.

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